Our trip to new Mexico to visit my boyfriends family is almost complete. I really don’t have anything against them, I just don’t like how open they are about their marijuana use. It’s like smoking a cigarette or drinking a beer to them. I found out on this trip that my boyfriend feels the same. We were obviously raised differently!!!! I feel like marijuana is something that immature teenagers do to experiment and you should grow up and be over it especially after you have kids. He and the fam believe it’s just like drinking a beer. What are your thoughts? I’m curious to see what other people do in situations where your values obviously don’t match. In mist ways we are completely compatible. But this has me questioning his true character.
So lazy about this move!!!
We found a place to stay until we move to Jacksonville in September. We are going to be staying with a friend in her spare room!!!! I’m so excited to have the opportunity to spend time with friends before we move. However, the moving companies keep calling and calling and calling! It gets so annoying! I’m sick of packing. I need motivation so badly! We are wanting to move everything we can to storage early next week and I’m no where near ready for that!
On another note, my BF’s kids were going to come out with his mom over fourth of July. And now he’s going there, wants me to go, and tells me two days after I can no longer request it off. Ummm this sucks! How do you handle changes like this? Last minute planning kills me!!!!
Well life has other plans!!
I swear as soon as we decide something the Marine Corps decides to make it change!
I told you a few posts back that we were getting ready to take over a friends lease. Her husband wanted to move closer to his new duty station and we wanted to move closer the the BFs duty station. Makes sense right?
Not to the Marine Corps. They don’t care what plans you made. BF received some interesting phone calls and emails this week. All regarding the health care needs of his youngest son. He is apart of the exceptional family program. Which has been a good thing. BF has remained stateside his entire career so that his son can receive the care that he needs. Well, recently we lost the child care we were using. And we had to make the tough decision to send the kids to live with Nana for awhile. BF received emails and phone calls early this week asking about the frequency and necessity of medical care, and he had to inform them that the kids are currently living out of state. He was told he needed to update DEERS ASAP. This isn’t unusual except that it wasn’t the efp lady who usually contacts him. It was the assignment coordinator who is kind of the assistant to his monitor. That means we are most likely about to change duty stations.
We were really excited at first. Hoping we were getting the station we applied for 2 months ago. Yeah right. Apparently someone in his office already got it. Well poo. Now we get to just ride it out. We have no idea when we will get orders, where they could be to (I’m praying it’s not Timbuktu, Alaska, or heaven forbid 29 stumps). And the kicker? He’s been in California for 7 years. Never overseas. I do not have a good feeling about this!
We came up with a tentative plan so my nerves are calmer. We are now looking for a month to month lease. And I lost my beautiful condo!!!!!!!! I can’t book my flights for the weddings back home yet in October since I have no idea where I’ll be flying from. Marine corps. Please stop messing everything up. He’s supposed to be out in a year. I would really like that year to come sooner rather than later. I want to establish roots somewhere!
So my question to you is how has the military changed your life plans? What did you do to adjust?
Signing a lease together
We went and viewed a condo today! So excited. Both of us loved it. I was a little worried about BF and how he would like it because he’s pickier than I am. We are hoping to sign the lease soon which is really exciting. I’ve been just living in HIS house but now it will be OUR place. I of course had to joke and ask him if he thought we were ready to take the jump and sign a lease together. That turd made me believe he was serious when he said he wasn’t sure about taking that step! What a dork. We started packing up the kids’ rooms and the DVDs and get this – VHS Tapes!!! So funny that we still have a ton of them! We found a Titanic VHS that we haven’t even opened yet. I wonder if anyone would pay money for our mint condition unopened Titanic movie. Any takers?
Love being home alone!
It’s hard to find time alone in our house. We have two tvs and I have my iPhone so I can always watch what I want even if it isn’t where I want to watch it. I am increasingly enjoying my weekdays off. I have all morning to sleep in without being pestered, I can lay around without feeling lazy, and do whatever I want. It’s a great feeling! I find that when the BF is home he always has the remote (he finally handed it to me one night after complaining, and I had no clue what to do with it). I am lazy though. The pile of laundry growing on our couch is proof of this. Luckily, we have two couches! Any ideas on finding a happy medium to enjoy my time alone but still be productive? I know I really need to get up and get things done. The BF will be home from work in a couple hours. It’d be nice to look like I did something with my day!
4 different belts?! Really!?
I’ve been a military girlfriend before. This isn’t my first go around. It’s my second serious military relationship. This is the first time I’ve ever lived with a boyfriend. And times like tonight when I get in “trouble” for suggesting he wear the belt from his cammies with his charlies because it fits better (I wasn’t paying attention to the clasp) makes me roll my eyes and wish I had more people around who understand. Thinking about it I figured there are other women who can relate and would appreciate my side of the story. I’ll post more tomorrow, as it’s getting pretty late and the man who spent 20 minutes explaining belts to me is finally in a cuddling position!!
sleeping together
So insomnia has apparently hit me hard tonight. I’m usually the kind of person who can just fall asleep. But not tonight. Maybe it was the birds I heard chirping at midnight… Since when do birds chirp at midnight?! I decided to take this time and contemplate the pros and cons of sleeping with another human being. I personally love slumbering with the BF. Before we moved in together I slept over almost every night (I lived right behind him so it was easy to go to my place in the morning). I had a hard time falling asleep without him next to me. Now that we have been living together for 3 months, I still enjoy sleeping with him. However, before he NEVER watched tv in bed let alone fall asleep with it on. It keeps me awake and makes it hard when I have to get up at 4:30am. He thinks I’m stealing the fitted sheet. Not the covers just the fitted sheet! Because I guess I have magical powers that allow me to pull the sheet from under him in my sleep! I have been observing him tonight. And been out of bed most of the night. The man moves a lot. And the sheet is completely torn up on HIS side. I wish I could prove it to him. It’s so strange to see the weird things others do in their sleep. It makes me wonder how I really behave! Then again I’d probably rather not know!!
